Sones, Sonya. 2001. WHAT MY MOTHER DOESN’T KNOW. New York: Simon Pulse. ISBN 13:978-0-689-85553-5
PLOT SUMMARY
Sones has produced a flashback of what it’s like to have your first boyfriend when you are a teenager through the eyes of an almost fifteen year old girl named, Sophie. This collection of poems describes exactly the feelings, thoughts, and actions of Sophie as she experiences an array of emotions as her body tries to figure out the opposite sex. Aside from just trying to grow up, Sophie is also faced with the reality that her parents are unhappy in their marriage and seldom remember to show Sophie any parental support. Sophie’s two best friends, Grace and Rachel, stick by Sophie’s side and unravel together what it’s like being teenage girls as they try to figure out the logistics and feelings that go along with having a boyfriend, and possibly being in love, even if it’s with the last person on the face of the Earth you thought you’d ever fall for.
CRITICAL ANALYSIS
The rhythm that Sones uses is mostly free verse and long couplets to create a flow. The meter is consistent in each poem, yet uniquely different for each poem. The cadence seems to easily flow as the number of syllables in a thought/phrase are grouped within a poem to match up in number. It could be a poem that has four stanzas and stanzas 1 & 3 are grouped using 3 lines, while stanzas 2 & 4 might be similarly written but use 5 lines.
Another technique that Sones uses is in the repetition of words to get a deliberate meaning across to the reader. For example in the poem, “At the County Fair,” the poem repetitively begins each stanza with “If only Dylan liked_____.” And then the next stanza switches to, “If only I liked ______.” Each verse keeps a comparison of the differences already inferred by Sophie.
No matter the design in format, all of the poems easily move forward when read. There is plenty of drama used in Sone’s words without the deliberate use of sound techniques such as alliteration and onomatopoeia. The language used in this collection of poems is vivid, full of figurative language and the typical verbiage you would expect to hear coming from a teenage voice.
The sentiments and realism expressed in the diction thoroughly help in the character development of Sophie as she expresses herself in a first-person point of view. The imagery throughout this book is surprising and unexpected, possibly causing one to blush with embarrassment. The absence of illustrations is not missed. Any female in touch with their feminine side will appreciate the honest perspective that Sophia portrays.
The emotional impact that this collection had on me was one of relief that I’ve already been there and done that, and secondly that although 25 years have past since I was in high school, my memories are still fluid and I can remember myself going through all of the things that Sophie similarly does.
Young females will especially appreciate reading this collection of poems. The recommended age would be about 13. These poems could help a naïve young lady to see reality in a realistic fiction sort of way. The collection could also be read for pure enjoyment. It’s a full story, with lots of juicy details, but shared in as few words as possible, making it a quick read.
What My Mother Doesn’t Know is a two hundred fifty-nine page book of poems. There is no table of contents or index to be able to locate a certain poem. Information about the author, Sonya Sones is published on the inside of the back cover. The front cover of the book appears to be a partial photograph of a young girl’s face smiling with her hand somewhat covering her smile. My assumption is that this is what Sophie, the main character, must look like. Anything else about her physical features is left up to the reader’s imagination.
As an adult, this book reminded me of a modern, teen-romance version equivalent to an adult book written by Nora Roberts. Parts of the book made me think about sheltering my own little girl who will someday be this age. The poems were so real, I would definitely read another book written by Sones
REVIEW EXCERPT(S)
Best Children’s Books of the Year, 2002; Bank Street College of Education; United States
Booklist Book Review Stars, Nov. 15, 2001; United States
Booklist Editors’ Choice: Books for Youth, 2001; American Library Association
Kirkus Book Review Stars, September 15, 2001; United States
Top 10 Youth Romances, 2002; American Library Association
YALSA Best Books for Young Adults, 2002; American Library Association
YALSA Quick Picks for Reluctant Young Readers, 2002; American Library Association
Young Adults’ Choices, 2003; International Reading Association
Lone Star Reading List, 2003-2004; Texas
Iowa Teen Award, 2006 Winner United States
Iowa Teen Award, 2005-2006; Nominee; Iowa
Soaring Eagle Book Award, 2003-2004; Nominee; Wyoming
Soaring Eagle Book Award, 2004; 2nd Runner up Grades 7-12 Wyoming
Thumbs Up! Award, 2002; Honor Book Michigan United States
Beehive Award, 2003-2004; Nominee; Utah
Rhode Island Teen Book Award, 2004; Nominee
South Carolina Young Adult Book Awards, 2003-2004; Nominee
Volunteer State Book Award, 2004-2005; Nominee
Booklist Starred Review: “The poetry is never pretentious or difficult; on the contrary, the very short, sometimes rhythmic lines make each page fly. Sophie's voice is colloquial and intimate, and the discoveries she makes are beyond formula, even while they are as sweetly romantic as popular song. A natural for reluctant readers, this will also attract young people who love to read.”
VOYA: “The poems are snappy, and each one strikes a chord that fluidly moves the reader on to the next episode. Whether she is socking a boy who molests her on the street, purchasing a half dozen sperm-shaped-print panties off the discount rack or watching her parents finally split apart, Sophie is a strong, likeable, and memorable character.”
Publishers Weekly Starred Review: "Drawing on the recognizable cadence of teenage speech, the author poignantly captures the tingle and heartache of being young and boy-crazy. She weaves separate free verse poems into a fluid and coherent narrative with a satisfying ending.”
School Library Journal: “Although the reading is sometimes too rapid for listeners to absorb the changes in topics, girls will relate to the author's honest prose and Sophie's angst. An excellent addition to YA collections.”
CONNECTIONS
*Read Sonya Sones first book, Stop Pretending: What Happened When My Big Sister Went Crazy
*A mother and daughter could read and discuss this book together
*Various poems taken from this book could be used in a school nurse’s presentation to a girls' only group to discuss puberty and the maturation into lady
*Teaching manners of using sensitivity when someone’s religious beliefs are at stake
*Making good friend choices
*A sex talk about “the birds and the bees”
*Discussing possible situations of peer pressure
*Dealing with unhappy parents/families